behavioral science
Science Says: Have Deeper Conversations
Hi again UpTrust! I'm Sara Ness, Resident Research Nerd (aka Research Director) at the social health nonprofit SeekHealing, CEO of Authentic Revolution, and co-founder of the OG Austin Authentic Relating and Circling communities.... Our emotions are symptoms not causes
Our emotions are symptoms not causes What difference might it make were we to understand that our emotions are symptoms and not causes? Love arises as an experience under a set of positive circumstances such as listening, honor, and respect.... When the Mind Rewrites Reality How Bias Snowballs Grow Into Illusions
We like to think we see the world clearly, like we are noticing what is really happening. But a lot of the time our minds are quietly shaping what we notice and what we ignore.... Bad Decisions Start with Bad Perception
Bad Decisions Start with Bad Perception Most failures in judgment don’t begin with bad decisions. They begin with distorted perception. Before we talk about awareness, decision-making, or action, we have to talk about what’s happening before all of that — what we notice, what we... How much are you Uptrusting? Downtrusting? I mean pressing the green and red arrows on peoples posts and comments.
Just curious how people are using this feature, as you can't directly see who has Up and Down trusted a post.
Currently, my threshold is reasonable high. I hit UpTrust if something is well thought out/I like the thought process behind it, and/or if it presents something novel that I like/agree with/find plausible.
That means something like 1 in 10 things I read, I hit the green button. Maybe? That's very approximate, it's hard to gauge without measuring it.
And I've been using the site regularly for a couple of months, and I don't remember having downtrusted a single post/comment.
BTW, this is very much not advocacy! I've no idea if this is how I should be operating, or it would be better (for any of numerous versions of "better") for me to be doing something differently.love this question. Curious to hear from others. I uptrust almost every post i read at least one topic, and i try to downtrust as often as I can but its probably more like 1 in 10. i do advocate for some downtrusts.... On Aspiration. In a recent Relateful Flow session, I said that I was aspiring toward something and that, to me, aspiration is an active principle. My comment was met with strong disagreement from a person who said that aspiration is passive and only concrete action of a physical kind, actually "doing" something, is active. I was a bit shocked and then realized that I might be in the minority on this subject. To me, "aspiring" is actively signaling Life/God that I am now ready and willing to receive the thing I have been saying I wanted. It is an energetic "yes"! Other more physically tangible actions may follow, but aspiration is first , especially in things which have always seemed to be beyond my grasp.
However, I understand what the person was pointing to. There is a world where action is physical; aspiring may be useful in some way, but it is a passive practice.
Would love others' thoughts and experience with this.
GPT5's quick take (prompt: how might 'aspiration' appear at different levels in a developmental maturity model, particularly regarding active/passive dynamics)?... An US - Iran Thread, especially as it relates to personal sense-making and 'waking up' frames. I'd love help making sense of what's going on. I don't have a lot of geopolitical history other than reading books by Tim Marshall and I don't even really know what kind of questions to answer, so here are some of the ones I'm thinking about. I'll post some thoughts about them in different comments below so we can start a bunch of convos if anyone likes.
- How do we embody love in response to global events?
- Nondual ethics... ?
- eg there's obvious love/compassion for all leading to a "no war" and noninterventionism, but also how to make sense of involvements, boundary enforcements and safety and prevention as expressions of the infinite; there's Arjuna on the battlefield in the Gita; activism / spirituality as engagement in world affairs a la Terry Patten, or the Bauls of Bengal, or Islam for that matter?
- Catching our projections onto what's happening and taking responsibility for that in ourselves;
- how can we help each other do this, see the world as the mirror it is (projection makes perception); eg not spiritually bypassing our pain by putting it out there
- and also do it without disengagement or "spiritually bypassing" the geopolitical realities of our world?
- Recognizing and side-stepping drama triangles, including meta-drama triangles of making drama trianglers wrong or victims
- Illusions of control — mostly it's not up to us, yet also we're interdependent and much more than individuals and it's up to someone?
Recognizing and side-stepping drama triangles, including meta-drama triangles of making drama trianglers wrong or victims Who are the victims of your understanding of the story? eg: Iran, Israel, Gaza, American citizens, Trump, you? Who are the perpetrators?... I don’t fully understand what sexual attraction really is. In one occasion I was able to pierce through a feeling of arousal and I found a big wound from my childhood. Something totally non sexual.
I wonder whether a lot of sexual attraction just points to unmet needs and is “designed” to help us meet those needs by bringing closer to specific people (with certain characteristics).
But I don’t understand the whole picture here. Is it always like this? There is some clear use for sexual arousal in reproduction, I can’t believe that’s always a sexualized childhood wound. Where’s the border between a sexualization and a genuine, irreducible sexual thing?? What do you think?
Sometimes I feel curious to what extent my sexual attraction has just been conditioned into being labeled as truly sexual in nature. Often when I am feeling attraction, my desire is very loud and says quite audacious things about what it thinks I want.... Toddler lessons: projection makes perception 🧸
Jack complains that Cecilia wants to steal a toy from his hands. I look at him quizzically, and he turns to ask her, “Bubba girl, do you want to rip this toy from my hands?” to which she replies “yaaaaa.” “See!” Jack yelps, “she does want to rip this from my hands!” Cecilia, aka... Would you still scroll if you knew your stats? I read that the average person checks their phone 150 times a day!! Wild right? It would be cool if social platforms gave stats like, you have logged in 8 times today or you have spent 55 minutes total here today, or 5 hours this week. Then could have qustions like, what have you been up to here? Or, do you feel this has been time well spent? Feels daring!
Yes! I have a chrome extension for Gmail called inbox when ready, and it tells me how many times I've checked my inbox each day. Also after X times, it makes me wait like 10 seconds before I can check again. It's very helpful.... Can someone actually have any Teal if they score 0% Orange, Amber, Red, and Magenta? Going through the scores of the Better Political Conversations quiz is fascinating. (reference: https://www.guidedtrack.com/programs/we0q1pq/run)
Now, this very well could have been someone running an experiment to test the scoring, or to try to get a sense of a friend or family member, but they did give a name where a lot of people leave that blank.
Their scores are:
Teal 55%
Green 45%
Orange 0%
Amber 0%
Red 0%
Magenta 0%Is it at all possible that someone could select every single response at Orange, Amber, Red, and Magenta as
False, wrong, or just doesn’t make sense
and have any actual Teal?Also interesting, I got an email from someone who thinks of himself as primarily Orange, but was surprised that his quiz results came out 0% Orange. He referenced his Meyers-Briggs results as a reference in support. Utterly fascinated, I’ve asked him to let me know what correlation he sees between the Integral levels and Meyers-Briggs, and I’ve asked him what statements at Orange would have had his quiz results come out accurate for him.
Each time I make a significant edit in the content of the project I make a note of the change in the google sheet where I’m keeping track of scores. Here are the averages of the currently 75 scores:
Amber 26%
Green 25%
Teal 21%
Red 12%
Orange 11%
Magenta 5%One blatant pattern I’m seeing is that high Green scores ALWAYS pair with a high score in Amber, and that people who have that pairing always score exceedingly low in Red and quite low in Orange.
I just test drove a version of this scoring system on my own results, and it’s a MASSIVE difference. What I did was every color I selected as "false, wrong, or just doesn’t make sense" I docked 3 points off the Teal answer for that question (the max points Teal can get on any... So.. who’s winning in y’all’s opinion?
I’m curious about using polls and prediction markets to gauge things like this. There’s a relevant prediction market based on the results of a poll here: https://manifold.markets/ManifoldPolitics/will-tim-walz-win-the-vp-debate?play=false Walz started the night at ~64% chance of... My therapist says...
if you have a disorder (I’d call this an undesired response + occurring regularly), don’t apply any strategies, any self-regulating methods to meet the stimulus. Don’t try to lower the fear. Any safety strategies will likely keep it in place.... I don't think I play fair on here
I look at who wrote things before I start reading and I read through the lens of my pre-existing opinion of them. I just noticed it a few minutes ago, and tried to read a comment without doing it. Something in my brain was screaming "But how do I file this info??...